Is He in Love With Me or Just a Crush? Know the Signs

The emotional chaos of “does he really feel something?”

Let’s be honest—you’ve probably sat on your bed, phone in hand, staring at his last message like “Wait… does this mean something?” It’s that confusing, borderline maddening space where you feel something, you suspect he might too… but you're not quite sure.

I had a similar talk with my friend Maddy last week (we always do love autopsies over iced coffee), and she said something that stuck: “If I need to Google it, he’s probably not that into me.” And I kinda agreed—until I didn’t.

Because honestly? Love and crushes can look weirdly similar at the start. Let’s break it down.

Crush vs. Love: What’s the real difference?

Crushes are fireworks—love is more like a bonfire

Crushes are intense. They hit fast. You feel butterflies, sweaty palms, irrational excitement when he texts “hey.” But they’re often based on fantasy—you’re into an idea of someone more than who they actually are.

Love, on the other hand, shows up slower but deeper. It’s consistent. You feel safe, seen, and maybe even a little scared (not in a bad way—just like “omg this could be real”).

I remember this guy in college I crushed on hard. He played guitar, wore rings, had messy hair. Total cliché. I was obsessed for three months. But when we finally talked about real stuff—like family or fears? Meh. No spark.

But with Ben (my now-partner), the connection wasn’t bam! It was quiet. But damn, it grew roots.

Signs he’s in love (not just crushing)

He remembers everything

If he remembers the name of your childhood dog, your favorite late-night snack, or that you hate Tuesdays for some reason—you’ve got more than a crush situation. Love pays attention.

He shows up, even when it's not convenient

Crushes are about flirting when it’s fun. Love sticks around when you’re having a bad day, your grandma’s in the hospital, or you're ugly crying about work. Love makes time. Period.

He’s emotionally vulnerable with you

This one’s big. If he shares real stuff—his insecurities, past wounds, future dreams—it’s not just infatuation. Opening up is scary for most people, especially guys. If he trusts you with that? Take notice.

He talks about a future (with you in it)

Even subtle stuff like “When we go to that concert next year” or “You’d love this vacation spot” are strong signs he sees you as a part of his future, not just a momentary spark.

But okay… what if it’s just a crush?

He’s hot and cold

One minute he’s texting you goodnight, the next he disappears for days? Classic crush behavior. He might like the thrill but isn’t investing in you, just in the chase.

It’s mostly surface-level

If all your convos are jokes, flirting, or late-night "wyd" messages… be careful. Crushes can be fun, don’t get me wrong, but love dives deeper.

I’ve totally misread this before—once with a guy named Jordan who used to message me all the time, tons of emojis, inside jokes… but when I got sick for a week and went quiet, he didn’t check in. Not even once.

That’s when I knew: just a crush. Mostly on his terms.

A gut check: What do you feel?

Here’s something we often skip: asking ourselves the hard question. Not “Is he in love with me?” but “Do I feel safe, calm, and respected with him?” Love makes you feel held, not confused.

And yeah, sometimes we WANT it to be love so badly that we ignore the signs. I’ve done it. More than once.

Conclusion: Stop guessing, start noticing

So… is he in love with you, or is it just a crush? The truth is probably hiding in the way he shows up—when it’s not convenient, when you’re not perfect, when there’s no performance.

And you know what? If you're constantly asking yourself this, if you're stuck in a loop of reading into texts and stalking his likes… maybe it's time to stop chasing answers and just observe his actions.

Love doesn’t hide. It might whisper at first—but it doesn’t vanish. And neither will someone who truly wants to be in your life.

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