What Are Reasons to Not Have a Baby? Honest Truths
Financial reality: kids are crazy expensive
Let’s be real here — babies are adorable, yes, but they’re also walking bank accounts on fire. From diapers and formula to daycare fees that made my jaw drop last year when I checked for my nephew... it adds up.
According to a USDA report (yeah, those guys did the math), raising a kid to 18 in the U.S. costs around $233,610. And that’s without private school or fancy hobbies like horseback riding.
I was chatting with my friend Emily over coffee last week — she just had her second kid — and she kinda laughed-crying said, "Honestly, it’s like setting hundred-dollar bills on fire every month." Not exactly the fantasy Instagram shows you, right?
Lifestyle freedom: babies change everything
Goodbye spontaneous plans
You know that last-minute weekend trip to the mountains? Or crashing at a friend’s house after a party? Yeah... those things get a lot trickier with a little one.
When my cousin Sam became a dad, he told me, "Dude, even grabbing a burger at 9 PM feels like planning a military operation now." (And no, he wasn’t joking.)
Sleep? What's that?
Sleep deprivation is real. Like zombie-level real. New parents average about 4–5 hours of broken sleep for months — and that’s being optimistic.
There was a time when I thought, "Eh, I’ve pulled all-nighters for work, how bad can it be?" Fast-forward to babysitting Sam’s newborn for one night: at 4 AM, I was crying almost harder than the baby. Lesson learned.
Emotional readiness: it's not just about love
Parenting is a marathon, not a sprint
Look, love is important. Super important. But patience, resilience, and emotional stability? Even more crucial.
If you’re already stretched thin emotionally — maybe from work stress, personal struggles, whatever — adding a tiny human who needs 24/7 care might not exactly be the healing balm you expect.
Honestly, I used to think "love conquers all" when it came to parenting. But after talking to multiple exhausted, overwhelmed friends, I get it now: love alone is not enough.
Global concerns: bigger picture stuff
Climate anxiety and overpopulation
It’s a bit heavy, but more and more people (especially Gen Z and Millennials) are thinking twice about bringing kids into a world battling climate change, political instability, and economic uncertainty.
I read somewhere (can’t remember exactly where, sorry) that something like 40% of young adults list environmental concerns as a reason to stay childfree. And honestly? I can't say I blame them.
Sometimes when I see the news — another wildfire, another hurricane — I wonder if it’s selfish to want to bring a child into this mess. Other times, I think, "But kids are hope." It's complicated. See? I'm still flip-flopping on this.
It's okay to simply... not want kids
No big reason needed
At the end of the day, you don't owe anyone an explanation. You’re allowed to just... not want to have a baby.
I used to beat myself up for feeling "weird" about not wanting kids. Like I was broken or selfish. But talking to people like Emily, who absolutely loves her kids but still says "this life isn’t for everyone," made me realize: you can respect parenthood without choosing it.
And that's more than okay.
Final thoughts (and a little confession)
If you had asked me five years ago, I would've said 100% yes to having kids. No hesitation. But now? After learning, watching, living a little more... I'm honestly not sure anymore.
Maybe you’re feeling that same confusion. Maybe you're 100% certain you don’t want kids, or maybe you're just questioning it quietly. Either way — you’re not alone.
If you want, I can also share some resources or books that helped me make peace with my own doubts (some are surprisingly funny, promise). Just say the word!
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Is 165 cm normal for a 15 year old?
The predicted height for a female, based on your parents heights, is 155 to 165cm. Most 15 year old girls are nearly done growing. I was too. It's a very normal height for a girl.
Is 160 cm too tall for a 12 year old?
How Tall Should a 12 Year Old Be? We can only speak to national average heights here in North America, whereby, a 12 year old girl would be between 137 cm to 162 cm tall (4-1/2 to 5-1/3 feet). A 12 year old boy should be between 137 cm to 160 cm tall (4-1/2 to 5-1/4 feet).
How tall is a average 15 year old?
Average Height to Weight for Teenage Boys - 13 to 20 Years
| Male Teens: 13 - 20 Years) | ||
|---|---|---|
| 14 Years | 112.0 lb. (50.8 kg) | 64.5" (163.8 cm) |
| 15 Years | 123.5 lb. (56.02 kg) | 67.0" (170.1 cm) |
| 16 Years | 134.0 lb. (60.78 kg) | 68.3" (173.4 cm) |
| 17 Years | 142.0 lb. (64.41 kg) | 69.0" (175.2 cm) |
How to get taller at 18?
Staying physically active is even more essential from childhood to grow and improve overall health. But taking it up even in adulthood can help you add a few inches to your height. Strength-building exercises, yoga, jumping rope, and biking all can help to increase your flexibility and grow a few inches taller.
Is 5.7 a good height for a 15 year old boy?
Generally speaking, the average height for 15 year olds girls is 62.9 inches (or 159.7 cm). On the other hand, teen boys at the age of 15 have a much higher average height, which is 67.0 inches (or 170.1 cm).
Can you grow between 16 and 18?
Most girls stop growing taller by age 14 or 15. However, after their early teenage growth spurt, boys continue gaining height at a gradual pace until around 18. Note that some kids will stop growing earlier and others may keep growing a year or two more.
Can you grow 1 cm after 17?
Even with a healthy diet, most people's height won't increase after age 18 to 20. The graph below shows the rate of growth from birth to age 20. As you can see, the growth lines fall to zero between ages 18 and 20 ( 7 , 8 ). The reason why your height stops increasing is your bones, specifically your growth plates.