Why Does He Act Like He Likes Me One Day and Not the Next?

He’s Sending Mixed Signals… But Why?

Ugh, I’ve been there. One day he’s complimenting your smile, texting you first thing in the morning, acting all sweet and flirty — and then the next? Cold. Distant. Barely a “hey.”
It makes your brain spiral, doesn’t it? “Did I do something wrong? Was it something I said?”

Actually, this exact thing happened to my friend Tasha recently. She was talking to this guy from her gym — super charming, super attentive... until suddenly he just started responding with one-word replies. No explanation. It drove her nuts.

So why do they do this? Well… there’s a bunch of reasons. And not all of them are bad. (Some are, though. Sorry.)

He Might Actually Be Confused About His Feelings

Fear of catching real feelings

Some people legit freak out when they start to like someone more than they expected.
Maybe he started out thinking it was casual, but then something shifted — like you said something meaningful, or he caught himself smiling at his phone like a dork.

And instead of leaning in, he backs off. Emotional whiplash, much?

Honestly, I once pulled this. I was chatting with a guy I really liked — and out of nowhere I started taking longer to reply, avoiding deep convos. Why? Because I realized I liked him more than I was ready for. Dumb, I know. But fear does weird things.

He doesn't know what he wants (and it's showing)

This is so common it’s practically cliché. He likes your vibe, he enjoys being around you, but he doesn’t know if he’s ready for something serious. So he yo-yos.
One day he’s into it, the next day he pulls away.

It's not always malicious — sometimes it’s just plain immaturity.

He’s Talking to Multiple People

Look, I hate saying this, but in the world of dating apps and 2 a.m. scrolls through Instagram stories, it happens. He might be “feeling it out” with more than one person.
So the days he’s all in? That’s when you’re the current front-runner.
The days he’s distant? He’s probably texting someone else.

Pfff. I know. Gross.

My cousin Jen dated a guy like this for months. She only realized it after she noticed he was active on Bumble while still texting her goodnight. That hot-and-cold behavior suddenly made too much sense.

He Likes the Chase More Than the Catch

There are definitely people (yes, including some guys) who enjoy the thrill of pursuit more than the connection itself.
So once you start liking them back? They disengage. Then once you pull back? They're right there again.

I call it the push-pull cycle, and it’s maddening. If you're constantly wondering what mood he's in today... girl, you're probably stuck in one.

Does he get bored once he knows you like him?

Ask yourself this: Did his interest drop the moment you showed yours?
If yes, there’s a decent chance he was more into the validation than actually getting to know you. That sucks to admit, but trust me, it’s better to see it now than months down the line.

It’s Not Always About You (Seriously)

Sometimes, his behavior has nothing to do with how great or not-great you are.
Maybe he’s overwhelmed. Maybe he’s got stuff going on — stress, family drama, work pressure. People don’t always have the emotional language to say “Hey, I like you but I’m mentally underwater right now.”

So instead, they go quiet. Or act distant.
And you? You start doubting yourself — when really, you didn’t do anything wrong.

That’s why communication matters so much. If he can’t tell you what’s up, you’re left guessing. And guessing gets exhausting.

What You Can Actually Do About It

1. Talk to him — for real

Sounds basic, but have you actually asked him about it?
You don’t need to go full confrontation mode. Just a simple:

“Hey, I’ve noticed you seem hot and cold lately. Everything okay?”
Sometimes that opens up more than you expect.

2. Step back and observe

Watch what he does, not just what he says.
If someone shows interest only when it’s convenient, that’s not consistency — that’s emotional convenience. And you deserve better than that.

3. Set your own emotional boundaries

You can’t control his behavior, but you can decide how much headspace you give it.
If it’s messing with your peace of mind on the daily… it’s probably time to put some distance.

Honestly? I wish I’d done that sooner in my own situation. It took me weeks to admit that I was waiting for attention from someone who was barely showing up half the time.

So, why does he act like he likes you one day and not the next?
It could be confusion, fear, immaturity… or, yeah, just selfishness. But whatever the reason, you’re not crazy for noticing it. And you’re definitely not overreacting by caring.

Just promise me one thing: don’t settle for emotional crumbs. You deserve someone who makes their feelings clear — not someone who makes you question yours.

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